Working on making your dreams come true

A dear friend of mine called me last night.  It is one of those friends that you click with immediately.  You spend years together and become family.  We worked together for many years. We became sisters. We knew each other’s secrets and took them to the vault. (and by the way, those kind of friends are few and far between) We vowed we would stay connected after our jobs were outsourced but years went by and of course, we did not stay in touch. But like I said she phoned last night. She had found my blog.  She wanted me to know how proud she was of me. I had shared my dreams of wanting to write children’s books with her many years ago. Although this blog is far from being an author it is something.(baby steps)   To be honest I had not thought of that dream in many years. When you get older sometimes life does not turn out like you thought. You hit bumps in the road, you get divorced, you lose a parent…….

We shared stories of what had been going on in our lives. She had lost her mother. I cannot imagine how that feels.  I feel like my mama is the center of my universe   I do not know what a day would be like without her.  I could not sleep for thinking about the details of how my dear friend lost her mother, how short our time here is and how I wish more than anything I could live in the moment.

 

My mom is 85.  She has leukemia and vascular dementia. We live together. I work full time.  I would love to be free to jump in my car and take her on road trips.   My goal for 2019 is to figure out how to spend more fun time with her before it is too late.

 

My dear friend told me this before we hung up “Write from the heart because you never know if you can help others that are going thru the exact same thing”

I will do that starting today.

Please leave any comments, tips, advice, please.  I would love to read it.

I am starting affiliate marketing and will write about it later.  I could use some tips on that as well.

 

Thank you for reading my blog.

Thank you, Susie!

Annette E

 

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Mom’s 85th Birthday Surprise

My brother, my sister in law, myself and my husband planned a surprise 85th birthday party for mom. It was in October 2018.  I cannot believe it but we actually pulled it off. She has 3 brothers and 2 of them made the trip to Asheville, NC. We rented a shed at Lake Julian.  We had family, friends and some bluegrass music.  I am so blessed to have her in my life. I cannot think of a life without her.

 

Making time for your family

There is nothing that makes my mom more happy than me taking a weekday off.  She loves for us to go somewhere or for me to just be home with her. I took one of those days on Friday.  It started out great with breakfast at Cracker Barrell. We were chatting.  I took a photo of her smiling.  While eating she got a little chocked.  She got embarrassed.  She was worried that I was embarrassed.  I was scared.  She was talking and coughing which were both good signs.  She ended being ok and we did a little shopping.

 

The medication she takes for leukemia has a long list of common side effects (Imbruvica).  I think she has had everyone of them.  Dealing with an ageing parent is all new territory for me. She is changing a bit everyday.  I have to keep reminding myself to be very patient.  I want to make her life as easy and as wonderful as possible.  I do not want her to see me get frustrated or impatient.  This takes a lot of prayer and mentally talking to myself.

As I write this I hear her in the kitchen whistling.  She wakes up so happy.  She makes her bed every single day.  How did she have a daughter who needs two cups of coffee each morning before I can make complete sentence, who seldom makes her bed and never seems to have the time to stop and smell the roses so to speak?  There are many things we do have in common.  We share love for lipstick/makeup, flowers, Christmas, snow, the cat, predictable Lifetime/Hallmark movies, fall leaves, coffee, sitting outside, reality shows, the beach, shopping, food, laughing and on and on.

I am blessed.

 

 

 

Davy Crockett comes to Cherokee, NC

In 1953 my mom was 20 years old and working in a craft store in Cherokee, NC. She was approached to be an extra in a Davy Crockett movie that was being filmed there.  She remembers being dressed in a long dress and bonnet.   She smiles when she talks about how much fun she had.  I bought the movie and found her but the photo is not great.   She is the background below with Buddy Ebsen. (she has the bonnet)

 

 

No Cats allowed?

My daddy never liked cats.  He made this well known to us.  I never thought about it at the time but I think it was mostly due to the fact that daddy loved his vehicles and the neighbor’s cat like to walk all over his freshly applied wax job. My mom was a wife who agreed and quoted most of the opinions my daddy had.

Not too long after daddy passed away a cat showed up at our house.  He was living under our deck.  He was as scared of me as I was of him.  I am not sure I had ever petted a cat prior to 2013. My husband coaxed him out one day.  He pushed him towards me and I  held him for a few seconds before he scratched me and ran away.  It took months until he would come out to see us and actually trust that we would not hurt him.

I grew to love him.  He was feral and had the clipped ear which meant he had been fixed, given shots and released.(I had to google this)  Kitty decided to visit the front porch one day.  My mom saw him.   I was fairly confident she would not like him. She seemed to want to get to know him.

My husband said, “that cat is going to end up in the house”.  I said “no way!” It was not too long until he made his way in the house and mom was feeding him.  My husband said “that cat is going to be sleeping with your mom” and I said “no way!” My husband was right.  Mom loves the cat she calls “Kitty Boo”.  He is so much company for her.  She thinks about him all the time.  My son took care of Kitty Boo when we took her to the beach last year and she could not stop thinking about him. She got a little homesick.  She talks to him and it is the sweetest thing ever.  I think he is talking back to her as well.

Kitty Boo was heaven sent.  We all love him very much!

 

Myrtle Beach Fan

My parents took my brother and me on two vacations.  We went to Nashville, TN (Grand Ole Opry) and Daytona Beach February 1972 (Daytona 500) I need to explain our sad faces in photo number 1.  The vacation was a surprise destination so when we started out daddy did not reveal where we were going.  My brother and I hoped it was the beach as we had never been. Guess what?  It wasn’t!  

They thought to spend money on vacations was a waste of money so needless to say after the Daytona trip I do not recall another one with my parents.

After daddy died momma wanted to go to Myrtle Beach. She had never seen the ocean.  She loves it! She wants to go all the time and I wish I could take her more. It is definitely her happy place.

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